You know that saying, “The only way out is through”?
Yeah … it’s true. Every. Single. Time.
There are moments in life when things get so hard, so uncertain, so cracked open that there’s no fixing, no bypassing, no shortcut … just the full-on surrender into the mess of it all.
I’ve been here before.
About 18 years ago, I found myself pregnant and single. That was my first real initiation into surrender. There was no “wait until it’s easier” option. I had to move forward terrified, exhausted, and determined to create the best life I could for my child.
And let me tell you … it was hard as EFF.
There were tears, breakdowns, tiny miracles, and more late-night talks with God than I can count. But I kept showing up. I kept moving through it. And somehow, through all the chaos and beauty of those early years, we found our rhythm.
Eighteen years later, we’ve been through so many iterations of life, the ups, the downs, the totally weird in-betweens, and my kid has grown into an amazing human. Actually, I have two awesome kids now, and I’m back to being a single mother. I love and adore our little family.
And, I find myself in it again.
Life currently feels like it’s dissolving and rearranging itself for the millionth time. Things are falling away, changing shape, transforming into… who knows what. It feels like a death process, not literal death, but the kind where everything familiar fades and you’re left standing in the raw, tender in-between.
And yet, there’s this quiet knowing in me:
The only way out is through.
So I’m in it.
Breathing.
Crying.
Feeling.
Creating.
Trusting.
Leaning into the Divine Intelligence that I know is reweaving something entirely new in, through, and around me.
It’s not easy. But it’s holy.
Because this is where the magic happens, in the middle of the undoing. When you stop fighting what’s falling away and start trusting what’s trying to be born.
So if you’re in your own hard season right now … I see you.
Let it be tender. Let it be real. Let it reshape you.
Keep going.
Because on the other side of whatever you are walking through, there’s always a whole new life waiting.
In love + curiosity,
Stacia
